LOVE YOURSELF! INSPIRATION
Forgive Yourself
"Remember that it is impossible to go through life without hurting another person's feelings just as it is impossible to go through life without being hurt by another person." ~ Author Unknown
Many gurus, spiritual leaders and teachers have all noted that pain and hurt are inherent parts of our human experience. We are either hurting another or ourselves. For some, they are completely oblivious to their hurtful actions or pretend to be because they are living in a constant state of fear. But what about the person who realizes the pain they have caused or the wrong decision made? Forgive yourself.
Many people believe that they don't deserve to be forgiven and they don't let themselves off the hook. They carry their pain around, beating themselves up mentally because they think it's what they deserve. They want to punish themselves before someone else does or they believe they can inflict more pain on themselves more than someone else can. Well, if this is what you think you are right.
Forgiving yourself is not just about getting on with your life and forgetting what happened. That is denial because we never forget. Forgiving yourself is about healing and transforming yourself so you can be who you really are and shinning that light on for others so they may learn from you and your experiences. It is about helping transform our world. Forgiving yourself is also your birthright. It is remembering that you are a spirit having a human experience and everything you experience is perfect for the growth of your immortal soul. The same is true for the person you have hurt. You have the gift of choice to change your perspective, to learn from your experiences and heal your world.
How do you forgive yourself? Forgiveness is a skill that you can learn just like riding a bike or walking. The following are the steps to forgiving yourself.
Step 1: Feel and Release Your Feelings - When you repress your painful emotions you get to keep them. This creates dis-ease and attracts painful situations and people into your life. When you move from FEAR to LOVE you will raise your vibration level.
Step 2: Meditate - You cannot change the past but you can be in the present moment. By being in the present moment you can make conscious decisions to help heal yourself and others.
Step 3: Use a Mantra or An Affirmation - This will help you change your thought patterns and free yourself from destructive thinking. Try, "I forgive myself. I deserve love."
Step 4: Observe and Correct Your Unwanted Behaviors - Recognize the mistake you made and then see how you can do it differently next time. Don't worry spirit loves you and will give you another opportunity to do things differently so you may learn your lesson. The situation may not present itself in the same manner but the lesson will still be the same.
Step 5: Make an Amends - Say you are sorry to the person you have hurt through a letter, by phone, in person or in spirit. Acknowledge what you did that hurt the other person and let them know you have learned your lesson. This might feel really scary at first but once you do it you will feel so much better.
Step 6: Actively create new relationships.
If you've been unable to forgive yourself, it's possible that you've been holding yourself up to unrealistic expectations. The past is behind you. You did the best that you could with what you knew in that moment. Now it's time to practice being the healed and transformed you making new decisions that suit the person you really are and sharing your life and knowldege with others is the greatest gift you can give back.
Step 7: Be Grateful - Give thanks that you are alive, you have learned your lesson and you are actively healing yourself. Also, give thanks to the Divine or Source for helping you to realize that you have never made a mistake in your entire life. Everything that happened was for the growth of your and everyone concerned immortal souls.
You are so loved, so love yourself just as much!